Curse of being a female virgin?

I'm 20 years old and in college. I'm attractive but I refuse to have with a guy I'm not in a relationship with at least. Guys just see me as a piece of meat and they want to have with me. Because I don't give in, they disappear. It seems as if guys hate the virgins. I've had guys tell me they do hate virgins. I just want a guy to love me. That's all. In my troubled life (my mom committed suicide less than 2 months ago), I just want a guy to care for me. My soul is weary. But I have my doubts because of everything that has been going on in my life. I still have hope but I think its impossible that a guy would want to date me without getting in my pants first. I have never been in a relationship because of this... and I feel it's the curse of being a female virgin. What do you guys think about all of this? I would appreciate male answers more about this.